Would it be rude of me not to show up here?

I have 3 close friends that I don't see often but I talk to them 24/7. Each of us is focused on getting through school and having great careers and we all have our own different art interests, one friend of mine even has a child, so we spend a lot of time apart however a few times a month we'll meet up to have fun together because that's about the only chances we have to have any fun while being socially comfortable.



I'm really friendly so even though I have 3 close friends I didn't mind making new ones when I moved to a new town. The thing about these new friends is that they want to hang out all the time and it's truly a competition. Whoever sits on the couch the longest is the coolest basically. No attempts at having a future, no hobbies, just drink and smoke and work at McDonalds and sit around.



I don't want to be rude to them or anything but if all they want to do is sit around, do nothing, insult each other, and attempt to be a higher reigning bum than another person then I don't want to hang with them. Is it rude of me not to show up to their normal hang out spot? I was invited but I just really don't want to be a part of that at all.Would it be rude of me not to show up here?
You seem like you are at a point in your life where you want to better yourself. These people are going no where and they will be doing the same things years down the line. That is not a position you want to be in. So i recommend you just don't hang out with that crowd and make friends who will better you as an individual.Would it be rude of me not to show up here?
If you have nothing in common with these people and do not want to spend time with them they are not friends they are acquaintances.

If they ask why you didn't come just say thanks for the invite but you were busy.Would it be rude of me not to show up here?
You are a go getter with goals and a future - the new friends you describe are so different than you, it's no wonder you feel uncomfortable around them.



I'm sorry that your true friends with similar goals are so busy - but that doens't mean you can't find friends that are more like you - positive and goal oriented. Since you are still in school, maybe you can find a group to join that you feel good about.



Don't feel that you are being rude to the smoking, Mcdonalds working couch potatoes - just tell them you have other things to do and sitting on a couch all day is not one of them. You are going to do something with your life, make a difference, reach your goals. Sitting on the couch won't help you to do that!Would it be rude of me not to show up here?
No it wouldn't be rude at all as you are clearly a organised and focused person who wants to get somewhere in life. I don't think however that just ignoring them is an option maybe you should talk to them even inspire them. It would probably be best to not go as it will waste your time and make them think they like you, just tell them as clearly as possible.